Marriage
A quiet daily space for two people — with a private journal that stays private unless you choose to share it.
Status
On the web
LiveYou can use it now at marriage.tendiem.app
iPhone
In the worksAn iPhone app is coming. Until then, it works in the phone’s browser.
The app
Not a chat app. Not a score. Just a place to show up for each other a little each day. You can invite a pastor, counselor, or older couple to see that you’re both showing up — without ever showing them what you wrote.
Each day you write two things at once: something just for you, and something you want your partner to see. The private half is yours. The shared half is what makes opening the app worth it.
You can ask to talk about something without dumping the whole conversation into a text thread. You can both answer the same question, and neither of you sees the other’s answer until you’ve both written. And if you want a mentor in the mix — a pastor, a counselor, an older couple — they can tell you’re both showing up. They never see the words, and they never see who asked to talk.
Why it isn't like the others
What makes it different
Private and shared, in one sitting
One check-in captures a thought you keep, and a note you give. You don’t have to choose between honesty and kindness.
You both answer first
Same question, neither of you peeks. Only when both answers are in do they open. Nobody can go back and change theirs after seeing yours.
A mentor who can’t read the journal
You both have to say yes to invite one. Either of you can remove them. They see that you showed up, and that a conversation has been waiting. That’s it.
No score. On purpose.
There’s no rating of your relationship, no comparison between the two of you, no badge for a quiet week. You share one streak as a couple — not a contest.
One more thing
A few more details
- To invite your partner, you show them a link. They open it, and you let them in.
- When you start, you write down a recovery phrase — like a spare key to a house. If you lose every phone, that’s how you get back in. There is no “forgot password,” because that would mean someone else could open your journal.
- If you later share something you wrote privately, a copy goes to your partner. You can’t take that copy back.
Also in Tendiem
The other apps
Pals
The same idea as Marriage, for a different pair — two friends keeping each other honest. No coach, no mentor.
Care
A family coordinating care for someone they love — without putting every private conversation in the same place.
tendiem.com
The public website — what Tendiem is, what it costs, and a plain-language promise about privacy.
